why can't boys think about anything in relationship but sex?

Question

because that's how my ex was, he don't even care how my day was or how i am feeling, and if i want eo talk or not, all he talk about is sex even when i am work

Answer 1

because they think it is the most inportant thing in a relationship and they just cant get enough!

i often feel this way about my boyfriend and then i think 'how would i feel if he was hardly interested in sex at all'

its a tough one honey but thats the way they are (its a real pain sometimes eh?)

Good luck and hope you find someone with the same sex drive as yourself. x x



Oh i have to add ' GOOD ON YOU ZERO R, MEN LIKE YOU ARE VERY RARE' x

Answer 2

Let's just be honest, if you are a guy you think about sex a lot. It's in our nature. However, we aren't simply breading stock without the ability to make decisions and control our behavior.



If you are a woman dating a guy and you feel like you're being used, then you have the wrong guy. You don't have to settle for less ever.



At the same time, keep in mind, what expectations are you setting up at the beginning of the relationship? Is your ex, your ex boyfriend? Was sex an early part of your relationship? If so then it is a big part of what your relationship is based on. Relationships that start with physical atraction have a hard time growing into wonderful permanent relationships. That's all I seemed to have before I met my wife.



Finally, one day I quit dating entirely. My wife and I became friends volunteering at church. I found that I could talk to her about anything. She took me seriously, and also didn't try get me to change. She accepted me as I was, and liked me as I was. That formed the basis of our relationship over a year, then three months of dating after that, and another six months of being engaged. My wife and I are going on 15 years of happy marriage.



Frankly, I think about sex all of the time. My desire is for my wife. This is flattering to her and she desires me as well. The reason is that our relationship started on a foundation of faith, friendship, and shared values. Our marriage is one of freindship, teamwork and enjoyment. That makes our desire for each other even stronger.



How about telling a guy that you are not going to have sex until you are married. Build a relationship based on personal and spiritual intimacy first. If a guy will be willing to invest himself in you and become close to you with only the addition of holding hands and kissing, then he might really be in love with you and not just having the hots for your body.



You are worth it.



My wife and I didn't get married until a number of our friends were already married. I had a lot of loneliness. My wife was worth the wait.

Answer 3

Clearly this reveals more about YOU than it does about men in general. It is apparent that you were sexually involved with this guy before you two were married--therefore you used sex as an attraction to win him over. Therefore you cannot say that "boys" are always only thinking about sex, all you can say is that the boys YOU attract are only interested in sex. I never was involved sexually with any girls prior to my marriage and I was NEVER preoccupied with sex when dating. I ALWAYS talked about what took place with my girlfriend's day or her family, job, school, friends, etc... We NEVER talked about sex because that was not a part of our pre-marital relationship.



You will catch the fish according to what kind of bait you use. If you offer sex out there, you will attract the guys who are only interested in screwing you and then moving on to another easy conquest. If you offer more substance and morality you will attract guys who seek more substance and more morality.



So in answer to your question, "why can't boys think about anything in relationship but sex?" I suggest you get a mirror and look into it. There is your answer.

Answer 4

In answering, I"d say its not just the boys but its the girls- and they are the pushy ones. Just lately on tv they had a psychatrist talking about it (I had always felt this way) and it was brought out by this woman psychiatrist.



From an early age the girls are more pushy for relationships than boys are, often to escape home problems and for attention. I think it's more on the rare side that the boy is more pushy/aggressive.

Answer 5

Because that's what we want. We want sex in the morning, lunch, dinner, and midnight snack. Since before marriage or government, men wanted sex to have children. We died young as we went out hunting the Dinosour while the woman was cooking and making clothes. We knew we would die young so we desired to have children at very young ages. It's our nature to want to have sex as soon as we get the ball sack.



We also prefer to have more experienced women in the sack. So I suggest you get practicing up if you want to keep a man happy. Go buy a few pornos and do what they do.

Answer 6

What do you think your Mom was talking about when she told you "Boys will be Boys!" Don't worry, when you get old enough & experienced enough, you Too will thoroughly enjoy sex with the right partner & He will be mature enough to know when, where & how to make you respond to his stimuli in pretty much the same way, Trust me. You sound, right now, almost as if you still think sex is Yucky or something!

Answer 7

Typically 'boys' will only think about sex in a relationship. Men will think of sex and food. Older 'men' will think of other things or totally ignore their woman. The only men that are sensative about the things in your life are men that really love women for what they are, a whole person. or they are gay. Gay men seem to be the only sensative ones. Besides, 'boys' have so many hormones in their systems that when they smell a girl around them they get stupid.

Answer 8

I think that they always talk about sex because it like a drug they get it once an they beg 4 it again so the best thing to do is wait

Answer 9

Girls can be the same too. My boyfriend gets upset if I talk about sex too much, but I don't just want him for sex - I love him very much! Usually it is just because of a very high sex drive.

Answer 10

That is so not true you are definately stereotyping all guys into one category and that isn't right. There are some guys out there that are think of everything besides sex or sexual activites. When im with my girlfriend all i think about is cuddling with her or just being with her. I know alotta guys like that, but yes there are some that do think about nothing but sex which is kinda messed up but w/e its cause were assholes :P

Answer 11

Get used to this answer. Guys are like that. We will never change. We love sex more than anything in the world.

Answer 12

Angel Cake,



Just to prove that we can think of something else, you posted your question in the Dining Out section. So we can think of two things...sex and food.



Not all bad.

Answer 13

Maybe that's all he was looking for, only b/c he was you bf doesn't mean he liked you that way. For all you know he might of had a few gf's GOOD job that he's an ex :)

Answer 14

Well the best thing to do is either drop the next guy that starts that, or don't have sex with him, thats how it usually starts.

Answer 15

Because that's the way we're wired!

How come girls can run around and do and think about everything BUT sex? (Because that's the way you're wired!)

Answer 16

Because they make the mistake of talking to other men.

Answer 17

ya i know how u feel! i think why they do it is cuz they want what they cant have and thats why once u do have sex with em they normally dump u later on cuz they got what they wanted and they got bored

Answer 18

Every time a boy asks just tell him no and laugh about it in front of his face..

Answer 19

Because nature made them that way! Their little head rules their big head!

Answer 20

be cuz that is all u have given him. that is all u r worth to him. whats wrong with u? Do u REALLY need to read this from a total stranger?

Answer 21

The hormone testosterone makes them. It's the way it is.

Answer 22

Ever since women's lib, you are now our equals. No need to treat you like queens anymore.

Answer 23

depends on age its only in a guys nature

Answer 24

Look at your question, you said "boys" , that should tell you the answer.

Answer 25

because GOD only gave us enough blood to use one head and when we're around women we use the wrong one

Answer 26

because they are boys and not men

Answer 27

maybe you are too good at it and he is blown awawy...give yourself a gold star

Answer 28

hey itheir you use it or uses you give it out our pass it oput

Answer 29

they're im-mature. short, sweet and to the point and so true.

Answer 30

because their brain is located in the penis. its hard for them.

Answer 31

Because they are full of lust